Halle Berry

"With that Big Willie talk, ya playing ya self" - Jeru the Damaja

There's something happening in young black America people. And that something isn't a positive. The Honest Man calls it the "Ya Feelin' ya Self" syndrome or YFYS. YFYS happens when a man or woman sees another man or woman of the same color in a particular setting but for whatever reason has it in his or her mind that other person is jockin' them. It creates an uneasy and unnecessary tension because one person may be trying to just be friendly but the other one is thinking he or she wants me. Let the Honest Man explain further.

One day my wife and I took my son to the doctor for his normal checkup. When the appointment ended, my wife was paying the front desk and I took my son downstairs to wait for my wife. As we're waiting, a sista gets off the elevator. She sees me looking at her, immediately stares down at her shoes, walks by, and is obviously ignoring me. Keep in mind, I'm sitting there on the bench, with my wedding ring clearly showing AND I'm sitting there with an infant. What am I going to holla at you about? "You wanna help me change these diapers you sweet sexy thing..." Sounds stupid doesn't it. Just as stupid as you thinking I'm trying to holla....

I told my wife the above story and she got a chuckle out of it. She tried to rationalize, asking me to look at it from the girl's perspective, and think about how many other times that some bruh did hit on her. A valid point, agree with her, but I'm also thinking if I lived my life always thinking the negative, then I'd never would make it through the day. My first thought at elevator chick was "Tric you ain't Halle Berry, stop feelin' ya self." My second thought was damn I wonder how many other folks think like ole girl....

Look I'm not saying there aren't dudes in my situation that probably were thinking about some corny mack line to kick it to ole girl. But you can't label everybody the same. If that were the case, based on my history with black females back in the day, then I would have abandoned them for a snow bunny or a butter pecan rican. Again see how stupid that sounds :-)

Today's Lesson

Seriously young black people, stop feelin' yo self. Not everybody wants you like that. Truth be told, real g's don't even think like that, only insecure folks. Truss me, the Honest Man was single many moons ago, my pimp game was tight (fact not fiction), and even with the NBA squad I was fielding, I didn't every chick wanted me to be their coach (MESSAGE). Whatever happened to just being friendly? CHUUUCHHH!